Oh the joys of being responsible! Many times, I have heard adults say they wish they could turn back time to become a child again. The idea of having less stress, no financial obligations, and more free time to oneself, is quite appealing. Having said that, I'm guessing that most people would agree that the benefits of being an adult are rewarding....responsibilities and all! I would not change my life or the responsibilities involved in my life for anything. I believe we can all gain useful knowledge from most life experiences...even the hard, sometimes not so fun, experiences involving unmet obligations, may be valuable.
Responsibility is important because it cannot be escaped. Therefore, we can choose to embrace our obligations, and turn them into something positive, or we can fight them. If we fight them, we loose, we complain, we feel bad, and we are generally pessimistic and unhappy. I choose the first option. Life is so much more fun when we have an appreciation for it, and a sense of accomplishment
from it. Don't you agree?
If we accept that responsibility is simply a part of life, and can be good, how do we teach this virtue to our children? I believe modeling this behavior and providing clear expectations of desired behavior are powerful tools.
Some areas children may practice responsibility include:
- Home - provide chore charts to help children keep track of household chores and duties. Create a homework/school area where children may complete school work. Provide opportunities for children to take care of, feed, play with, and walk pets.
- School - create classroom jobs. Rotate jobs on a regular basis. As a class, create a list of student responsibilities. As a teacher, provide clear expectations, structure and routine.
- Environment - throw away trash at parks, schools, or other places within the community. Use a responsible amount of water when gardening/watering the lawn. Walk to school, instead of driving a car. Plant a tree.
- Oneself - practice good self-care habits. Brush teeth, bathe, eat healthy food, drink water, clean up after oneself, wash/dry clothes, be accountable for one's actions. Follow through on commitments, and be trustworthy.
In your opinion, what is the most important responsibility to teach children?